lazy lovers

"Ok, just let me finish this first." He was home very early and I was still in the middle of the dishes. Since block leave wasn't over for the battalion, but he was out of leave days, my husband had to go check in at the company for PT and accountability. (Translation: He was out of vacation days so he had to go back into work, but not everyone was back from the vacation period, so he didn't have a normal full day's work.) This meant that he was usually home before 8 am every morning. At first, it was really nice. He'd climb back into bed with me when we got home and we'd sleep in and start off the day slow. However, I'm about to start nursing school and began feeling stressed and pressured to get things done. The days of being lazy lovers are slipping away and the reality of John going back to work full time and me starting a very intense registered nursing program is starting to sink in.

But the days aren't completely gone yet. Where I want to do and plan and make happen, John wants to be and rest and let happen. (See how he's so good for me?) I love my husband dearly, but when he was asking me to stop what I was doing so that we could go back to bed, it took everything in me to listen to him. I wanted to blow him off and say "No, I have things to do!" Then I thought about it... will it really hurt if I go to the store two hours later than I had originally planned? Then I remembered all those lonely nights without him. Images of crying in my bed longing for him so deeply came to my mind. I wiped down the kitchen counter, put the sponge away, and went back to bed snuggled up close to the love of my life.

As if we haven't had enough change and transition the last two months, we'll be adding a new dynamic with me going back to school. The program will take up 60-80 hours a week of my time. Because of that, there will be new normals and roles in our home. The first year and a half of our marriage I've been a homemaker. Now the stereotypical gender roles will need to shift some with him being responsible for more duties around the house. We're not exactly sure how all of that will work out practically, but we do know that we both feel a little nervous about the change.

My nervousness comes out in the form of "we're going to have to face this soon, so we better just start practicing now." John's response is more like "we don't have to face it yet, so let's just enjoy this while we can." I decided to take my husband's lead and simply enjoy this time of no work, no school, no kids, no pets... just about no obligations other than each other. We've basically been on one giant date for a week. I've been fighting my habit to do and am enjoying just being. John went back into work today and school starts in five days. I'm already feeling a bit nostalgic about the days of sleeping in and being lazy lovers.